Sunday, December 4, 2016

The Art of Being a Lady

Lately I've been working on one of my many projects I had set out to do for 2016, and as it grows to and end I figured better late than never, right?! I finally took out the time to go through inspiring photographs and quotations for my vision board.

As, I was doing this, I asked myself what I wanted to project through my board. What did I want to accomplish, who did I want to be, what was the grandest vision possible for my life? Pinterest was my best friend during the entire process. Inspired by the many photos and little things, I began to notice something about myself. All of my pictures had to do with self growth but also femininity. I have woman like First Lady Obama, Emma Watson, and many other influential woman in our society. What do they all have in common? They are all elegant woman. 

 You know, I don't consider myself to be very feminine. I put on makeup and dress in female clothes but I'm not the girly girl type. I've always been a bit of a tomboy. Always sporting comfy and relaxing clothes. I CAN go outside without doing my hair or makeup, I can wear the same thing two, three and even four times, I rather put on a pair of sneakers than a pair of heels. That's just me, so then why is my inner self projecting a completely different woman in my board?

I concluded that the problem lies with number one, self esteem and number two, the lack of money. Although I'd like to think I have good self esteem, the image I project to the rest of the world may not be what I think it to be like in reality. I'm a mom of three toddlers. To find the time for me is next to impossible. So, I don't look my best all of the time. Really though, who can chase toddlers in heels? Not me that's for sure! I'm then obligated to opt for the comfy sneakers and yoga pants. Some may suggest waking up earlier before the kids get up in order to have time for myself to get ready. Let's be honest, ain't no body doin' that. My 10 month old has yet to have a sleeping pattern/schedule and is up the majority of the night and up bright and early with the other two. My spirits sometime's are just dragging behind me in the dirt...

As I mentioned before, my other struggle is the lack of money. What do I mean by this? I mean, being broke! Although my husband works a full-time job, we only make enough money to make ends meet. We budget as if there was there is no tomorrow! We don't really have the means to buy "extra" things. Affording things like, going to get my nails done or even updating my wardrobe is a hard feat to accomplish...ever.  The fashionable and luxury attire I want is simply unattainable at the moment. 

But that's okay! Therefore, the purpose of the vision board. To aspire to better! This brings me to what I wanted to share with you all. In planning my vision board, I came to the realization that I want to be better, a better person, a better wife and mother, a better woman. The art of being a lady has disappeared and I want to be an example and help empower woman by bringing it back. This doesn't mean taking away the progress woman have made over centuries but to strengthen what separates us from the men and be inspiring, influential, strong woman for the rising generations. I invite you to subscribe to my channel and follow my blog to join me in my journey of becoming a badass woman in today's world. Yet remaining, poised, elegant, and feminine. I want to be someone people respect, admire and aspire to being. Hopefully, you will too. So join me next week for our first lessons on how to be a lady. There will be a new video up to go along with my posts! Till next time,...